We’ve all heard the following phrases:<\/p>\n
I have to confess that I do believe love at first sight exists. Well, for some of us anyway. Precious few, others might say. But it does set alarm bells ringing when I see, or hear, of lovers declaring undying love 5 minutes after they’ve met. Only to part ways soon after. Ah, the incredible 3-month infatuation period. We’ve all been there, done that. Admittedly, it is wonderful falling prey to the amazing highs and excitement of new love; if only it would last.<\/p>\n
If you make it to the 6-month mark, you have a 50-50 chance to make it to a year. After which, I believe, only then can you say you really know someone. Granted, there are exceptions, but after almost 20 years advising people about matters of the heart, I do think\u00a0a person\u00a0is in a better position to decide if they want to move in together,\u00a0\u00a0get engaged, have a baby\u00a0or tie the knot, after 12 months. Or better yet, 2 years and more.<\/p>\n
Don’t rush,\u00a0savour the first heady stirrings of love, but do stick around to make sure it is\u00a0more than\u00a0lust, the ticking of your biological clock, or a perhaps fear of being alone. See if you can put up with his annoying habits, meddling\u00a0parents, nasty ex or\u00a0wary children. Take the time to see if he speaks his truth, is stable and treats you well. Also, keep in mind a\u00a0line I read a few years ago: “Be careful you don’t end up with someone you’re merely fond of instead of truly in love with”.<\/p>\n
So, breathe deeply, take the plunge and dive into a new relationship by all means. Just come up for air to\u00a0test the waters to make sure you havent hooked up with a wet fish, or\u00a0swam with a shark. Time will tell.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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