Serious about finding The One? \u00a0Take these 6 steps toward finding, and maintaining, the perfect partner and relationship for you:<\/b><\/p>\n
1. Make a list of your ideal partner.<\/p>\n
Write down everything you would like in your perfect man\/woman. Have fun with it. Be specific. Then prune your list.\u00a0\u00a0What is truly important versus what is\u00a0non-negotiable? For example, you would prefer a millionaire, but you\u2019re happy if that he is fairly comfortable financially. Or you\u2019d like a redhead but you can live with her being a blonde. It\u2019s a different story however, if you are prepared to give your heart to a man with a violent temper when you need a gentle man. You get the idea.<\/p>\n
2. Tick off the attributes you have in common with your soul-mate (to-be).<\/p>\n
You both love cycling? Tick. You love jogging and he loves tennis. You\u2019re both sporty, great. \u00a0You\u2019re calm and he\u2019s rock solid emotionally? \u00a0Even better. He\u2019s a member of MENSA and you\u2019re a rocket scientist. Close enough. You\u2019re a small town girl and he\u2019s lived in all the big cities around the world, but he wants to settle down in your hometown. Perfect.<\/p>\n
3. Note the remaining points on your wish list.<\/p>\n
There are bound to be a few things you might not have, that you want in a partner. For example, if you\u2019re an introvert, you might like having an outgoing partner around to spice things up a little. Or you\u2019re pint-sized package at 5ft4\u201d wanting to snuggle up to a manly 6ft soul mate. Perhaps you\u2019re a wonderful home-maker wanting to take care of hearth and home for a businessman who likes to be the provider. Nothing wrong with that; as long as everyone is happy, go for it!<\/p>\n
4. Beware the patterns.<\/p>\n
You want him to be financially secure, but you’ve maxed out your credit cards? Having a guy with a six-pack is important to you, but you\u2019re seriously out of shape and sporting two chins? A serial womaniser who rates fidelity as a high priority in his partner? If you\u2019re lucky enough you may indeed find someone rich enough to pay your debts, a guy who loves you for your mind, not your body and a woman that tames your playboy ways. And you\u2019ll live happily ever after. \u00a0Back in the reality, what often happens when you\u2019re fiscally challenged is that you are more likely to attract men who control you financially, reject you in favour of someone more solid or take advantage of you. The muscled Adonis with the 6 pack will be highly unlikely to even notice behind him in the mirror or amongst the firm lycra-clad bodies in the gym he lives in. The playboy will probably put you through hell with his double standards if the relationship lasts long enough. One way or the other, you will attract a mirror image to teach you the difference between what you want and what you need.<\/p>\n
5. Do the work.<\/p>\n
Ok so you can\u2019t make yourself any taller, but you can learn to love that you\u2019re small. Either that or invest in high heels. Problem solved. Ditching the credit cards or\u00a0being\u00a0disciplined enough to stick within your\u00a0budget\u00a0is a step in the right direction. You can choose to exercise and get fit and healthy or simply make peace with the odd bulge in yourself and others. It is possible to opt for some therapy and get to grips with trust and other issues, instead of compulsively bedding all and sundry to slake a temporary thirst.<\/p>\n
6. Reap the rewards.<\/p>\n
There is nothing as liberating as taking control once you\u2019ve recognized, and subsequently \u201couted\u201d your fears.\u00a0 It\u2019s bracing, but curiously calming, to realise that the ONLY reason you haven\u2019t found Mr or Ms Right, or the right balance in your partnership, is simply because you haven\u2019t completed step 4. & 5. yet. That\u2019s the \u2018bracing\u2019 part. The \u2018calming\u2019 part is the utter peace that comes with the knowledge that if you DO the work, it WILL work! No more angst or hopelessness; you will find instead, a priceless sense\u00a0 of purpose and security that comes from knowing that there is someone perfect for you, working their way to you.<\/p>\n
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